is a story of personal growth.
What I've gone through - I'm hoping to help keep other people from experiencing.
I wrote this book initially as a personal journal of what I went through before, during, and following my failed attempts to save my marriage, because I needed to find a healthy way to deal with my pain and frustrations. The more I wrote, the more I felt able to finally release my hurt and bitterness, and I realized that there are thousands of other men and women – both in the service and out of it, who are experiencing the same pain, frustration, and sense of isolation that I went through.
The isolation I went through was borne out of the stigmatism associated with asking for help. That stigmatism was more than perception – I was attacked by my battalion commander and others in the unit when I finally broke down and had to ask for help. Overcoming character assassination was a difficult thing to do, but I had to ask for help as the stress I endured slowly ate away at my health and wellbeing.
I finished writing Finding Myself in October 2008 and found that God had crossed my path with various people who needed a word of encouragement. As this message finds its way into the hands of more people, I continue to sense that the pain I endured is serving to help others. There are men and women who suffer in silence with issues that I have already experienced and I am in a position to help them.
This is a story about my experiences and lessons that I have learned.
Finding Myself: A Soldier’s Recovery From Betrayal, Embattlement, & Divorce was written to help you overcome the stigma of asking for help. It is a story about personal growth and it will direct you to the resources you need to reestablish a broken relationship or help you prepare for a future one.
